You may be at a crossroads in your relationship where you’re asking questions like: Do I have to put up with this behavior? Is this all there is? Is this the best I can do?
These are tough questions to answer and even tougher to navigate alone or with family and friends. Talking to family and friends may reduce your confidentiality and leave you with a lot of opinions.
Deciding to end a relationship is difficult and often comes with a lot of anxiety. Most clients I see have wrestled with the idea or decision for a very long time. Oftentimes they have discussed it with their partner but nothing is ever done.
Therapy can be helpful for many reasons. It can help you:
- Learn how to manage your anxiety,
- Understand the difference between appropriate and inappropriate boundaries,
- Understand the patterns of thinking, feeling, and behaving that have gotten you to where you are,
- Understand why the relationship has failed.
This can be very valuable information as you move forward and think about having another significant relationship so you don’t repeat those same patterns in the new relationship.
Ending a relationship well means you have decided you want to end the relationship with dignity and respect for yourself and your partner. You are deciding to be your Best Adult Self and choosing not to behave in a more childish/parental pattern that can often plague divorces. AND you can do this together, with your spouse if you are both open to it. I often have couples who come in together to figure out what is best for each of them and their children, both short-term and long-term.
I had the privilege to teach a University of Texas Informal Class in Austin, Texas called “Should I Stay or Should I Go?” and have worked with individuals and couples who are asking themselves this question. I’d be happy to talk with you to help you decide what’s best for you and your situation.